I don't know how SDRs do it (Part 1)

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Confession: I've never been an SDR.

But I've worked with dozens of them. And there's something not enough people talk about.

This isn't about tactics or frameworks or "5 ways to improve your cadence."

It's about what it actually feels like to be an SDR right now. And why most teams are burning out their reps without even realizing it.

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I was looking through our internal messaging docs the other day - the ones we built after analyzing hundreds of customer testimonials and pilot calls.

There's this one line that stuck with me:

Not nervousness. Not hesitation. Dread.

I've been on dozens of demo calls with SDR leaders and sales managers over the past few months. The same themes keep coming up.

One leader told me their team hasn't hit target for six months. That pain hovers constantly in the back of their mind.

Another described their 2% connect rate: "Sometimes you can go through an entire day and not even talk to someone."

An entire day. Zero conversations.

A third calculated their cost per conversation: $2,500 to book one meeting. "Logistically speaking," they said, "the math does not math."

A senior sales director who cold called for over a decade put it most simply: "It's a horrible thing."

Here's what most sales leaders miss.

Every single attempted call that doesn’t connect is a tiny hint of rejection.

SDRs develop what psychologists call "rejection sensitivity." They expect failure before they even dial. Many question whether they're cut out for sales at all.

Not realizing the game is rigged against them.

One person described it as "breathing rarefied air" just to get someone to pick up.

Another: "It becomes demoralizing. It can get you anxious. You're always looking for that next yes."

That's not coming from lazy reps. That's coming from people grinding through 2% connect rates, watching their teams burn out, and wondering if this whole thing even works anymore.

I keep seeing the same structural problems across teams:

SDRs have no ownership over their own performance.

They execute someone else's copy, someone else's targeting, someone else's script, on someone else's tech stack.

Meanwhile their LinkedIn feed is full of posts about what actually works. Their Slack communities are buzzing. Everyone's DMing about which tools are crushing it.

And they're stuck with whatever their manager bought two years ago.

The feeling isn't FOMO. It's worse. It's "I look like a failure and I have zero control over changing that."

They can't get leadership to invest in change.

Sales tech gets the smallest slice of the budget pie. So any suggestion to try something new comes with an implied question: "Okay, so who are we firing to make room for this?"

Meanwhile, the pressure from above is insane.

Leaders are getting impossible mandates: grow pipeline by 30% with no additional headcount or budget. Hit escalating binary targets that keep going up every quarter. Book 1,000 meetings with half the team.

One leader told me: "We're well below targets and it's not for a lack of effort - it's for a lack of people. But instead of hiring, how do we make things happen with what we have?"

And the attrition is brutal.

Multiple rounds of layoffs. Teams going from eight SDRs down to one. VPs getting cut. Entire functions eliminated.

One manager described losing three BDRs in a single month - right when they needed to hit target and hire replacements simultaneously.

The phrase that stuck with me from these calls: "Nervous about the future of outbound."

Because it's not just about this quarter's numbers. It's about whether this whole motion even works anymore.

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Look, I know this is dark.

But here's the thing: 

I've also been on calls with teams who've figured it out. Where reps are excited to dial. Where managers are seeing transformations happen in real time. Where the energy on the sales floor is completely different.

And the difference isn't motivation or culture or better happy hours.

It's structural. It's math. It's engineering.

Next week, I'm going to show you what that transformation actually looks like, and how to make it happen. The stories are pretty wild.

Thanks for reading,

Evan Dunn (LinkedIn)

P.S. If you're an SDR leader dealing with any of this right now, hit reply. I read every response. And I promise next week's newsletter is a lot more hopeful.